Many married couples-to-be are sometimes similar to traffic signals such as: green for GO, yellow for Caution, and red light for STOP. Individual couples seem to get cold feet when the marriage question is asked. Mentally they think they are ready to make a committement, and it's usually when they see other married couples. They see how happy they seem, and how cozy they look together. It makes the couple want to get married, but the yellow light starts blinking in their mind. Caution! Caution! Caution! Then they start second guessing the thought of marriage, maybe their parents marriage was dyfunctional, divorce, separation, and possibly abusive. In a quick second their ready to say NO to the question of marriage.
And then red signal light occurs...STOP! The thought of sharing the same quarters, money, and material items comes into question. Perhaps some of those signals could be; no longer having independent freedom, to think,or to make their own decisions. They could be thinking about learning how to compromise; because when a person is single, they usually do not have to ask or answer to anyone. Then there is learning how to deal with someone elses habits; maybe they are a slob, neat freak, demanding or all of the above. This is lot to think about in the short time to give a Yes or NO answer.
The mental mind can play some conning tricks on individuals deciding to get married. But when the married couple-to-be, looks into each other eyes they sense comfort, love, and security. Depending on how long they have known each other, they should sense they compliment each other. Most likey they know marriage can be scary and challenging. Embarking upon marriage can be an eye opening experience, but there are many marriages that have survived.
The most important role in marriage is to be honest, communicate, compromise, and learn to trust each other. And by the end of the hard thought decision, the married couple-to-be choice will be a YES! All lights get a green light and it's a GO!
Marriage is a major decision that an individual will have to make some day. There will be signals that may say the person considered in marriage is not the right person. Yes, some individuals walk down the isle with a person, and live to regret the moment. Then some individuals ignore all signals flashing red. But deep in their heart love comes through.